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* Try to know the intent of the story
* Tell the intent of the story to other party of the idea that you understand or not understand; intent of understanding and the intent of being as "educated" as possible.
* Be as simple as possible; other party would not have a clue on other statements that seemingly be related or not related at all.
* Visual expressions most of the time relates but there is also a point that most of the time it does not relate. We human beings interpret 70 % of information visually without knowing of the misjudgment
* Try know the intent of the result
* Try to educate them from time to time and put forward to their understanding, your understanding and others understanding.
* Try to tell them how you feel and think from time to time so they could have a better understanding on how they perform in front of others on certain aspects of problem solving
* Try to give them another view and idea of things that gives a positive light rather than a negative one regardless of the result
* Reflect back on the ideas given. We ourselves are reflections to others.

Information recorded on the brain involves more on emotional factors relative to the past and the present point of time for some. It could be previous experience that cause them to ‘push’ away from certain things in life. It could be also that ‘attracts’ them to certain things in life as well.

* Try to know the bounds of life of this ‘attraction’ and ‘push away’ factor from experience rather than information that has been past down previously; and re-experience it at a different point of view given a good intent was known

* Try to promote ‘good’ intents without saying the bad ones first or from environmental distractions of the user’s experience

* When nothing works out, just walk the simple steps of life

(2:15PM Previously had an argument with Dad about building a storage furniture for the garage)
Going over the first the step for a particular problem (that arises and thinking it should be solve for another party) arises a lot more problems than the solution itself, especially for another person. Such as in the hierarchy levels of society, parents and children in a family; how to deal friends, elders and others.

There is more consideration that needs to be agree to is:
* Is the offering appropriate for both parties? 
* Have we consider the needs and wants for it?
* Is this just an arising chicken and egg question where one party is already happy with but the other party is not happy with?
* Is there another way to address the problem?
* Should there be more sides to a story than just the story itself?
* Should the atmosphere and the environment be positive rather than negative? (starting of it and finishing of it also counts)
* Should there be a conclusion to what was arise rather than continue on and on?
* How should the third party treat the problem itself mutual before there is essence of biasness in either sides and what governs a fairer way in explaining things rather than to add on to either biasness?
* Was there a different level of communication between the two?

In my result for the argument of day was: both sides did not really want to know. One spoken in ‘direct-ness’ to address the point at hand; the other was addressing ‘indirect-ness’ of letting somebody know as well as the person at stake that it means ‘you’ as well.

It is a typical way in addressing a problem, leaving one guessing on "what are you trying to say?" when it becomes cross-purpose when one arises that it is addressing to the other party and not the third-party.

It could also leaves room of misinterpretation for the third party as well, once he/she knows about the situation of what happen beforehand, how he/she should judge about it and then afterwards.

Having to do something for a third party itself also arises problems of "Did he/she wants it or not and how much value does it give once the "Move" been made?". "Imaginary Value" gives more on the arising of the intention itself, "Realistic Value" after the "Move" has been made.

So what is "Imaginary Value"? Something that has been taken from a realistic description of what the third party description of what’s he/she value in according to their nature of preferences. So imagine if a handyman would give more value to his tools rather his socks, whatever and then start judging if this description is really correct by looking at a certain amount of handyman’s tools and socks and does it really correlate?

"Realistic Value" is then judge from this arising information. Is this harder with hierarchy in families; elders when the leader’s preference is provide their arising of conceptual characteristic wants rather to understand what is opinion, what is fact, what is out of range, what is BS?

(Stands for: Best for the listeners where the speaker’s intent was to explain according to their knowledge of understanding or what they are able to accept at the point of time because of their knowledge of the environment?)

For example: in my case, dad wanted a storage furniture in a garage. Long-term "Imaginary Value": more things could be fit into it. Short-term or arising "Chicken-Egg" problem; is this a good way to solve a third-party problem of storing his things. One it is overcrowding, second it is messy: claim by the person who arises the problem itself.

Another thing is to be asking did the person actually know about it? Did he really think it was a problem of itself if he did? Yes/no and why? What did it really cause the person in such an instant reaction from the crowd? What was the emotions inside and out?

The truer essence was: he sense there was something he did not want to choose at all in such an instantaneous reaction and gave a response that he did not support at all at that point of time of response.

In this "Imaginary Value" of "Move" had a negative starting point in the beginning. It was cut out at the boiling point of the discussions before anything could had happen. Act and result. Had long-term "Imaginary Value" which was positive and lesson learn; which was also positive; having a more clearer idea of the third party "Imaginary values" really lies.

(3:42PM Take a break. Relax)

Every person’s "Imaginary Value" is different; concepts are different but what is similar to everyone us in dealing with problems? The "Imaginary Value" of how shall they treat themselves and others. Some factors include attitude and what kind of world they believe to be in given to the information that they know.

(3:58PM Clear the mind, "Empty" everything)

Those who thought the things of the above was true; experience it and take whatever it is. Those who thought it was false; explore it and throw it away.

Remember the origin intent was neither to prove true or false. Understand happiness "within", peace "within".